The Most Powerful Way to Overcome Resentments

Clear your heart if you have unresolved feelings that need to be cleared in order to welcome self-love.

July 13, 2017
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Adapted from Jim Curtis' new book, The Stimulati Experience

If you are nursing an old hurt, stuck on a distressing episode, or ruminating about the could've, should've, would'ves of your life, then you have unresolved feelings that need to be cleared in order to welcome self-love.


I created the following exercise based on the teachings of Emmet Fox, a leader in the New Thought movement of the early 20th century. Fox was a minister, author, healer, and mystic. His teachings encouraged individuals to develop their own creative power. Fox believed, as I do, that we can lift our consciousness above the level of our problems and resentments in order to resolve them.

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This visualization will help you clear your resentments. This exercise takes less than 5 minutes to complete, and you can use it whenever you become aware of feelings of bitterness. You can even use it in the moment when an unpleasant situation is occurring.

First get yourself to a calm, comfortable mental place. Then create a clear picture in your mind of the person toward whom you feel resentment. If it's yourself or your own actions, you can bring that picture to mind as well.

Think about the role you may have played in the stressful scene and how you might reinterpret the event. Imagine how the situation might look from the other person's perspective or a complete outsider's perspective.

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Next, picture good things happening to yourself or that person. Is he receiving love or attention? Be aware of your own reactions. It may be hard at first for you to imagine good things coming to that person or yourself, but try not to be critical of your reaction. Accept it for what it is, knowing that it will become easier with practice.


When you are finished, notice how much more relaxed and less resentful you feel. Carry this new understanding of self-acceptance with you throughout the rest of your day.