5 Survival Tips for a Long-Distance Relationship

Don't let the miles between you compromise the love. Follow these steps to make that LDR exciting and worthwhile.

December 28, 2016
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Adapted from He's Just Not Your Type (and That's a Good Thing)

Long-distance relationships tend to heighten the best and the most challenging aspects of any healthy relationship. You and your partner have to compromise, you have to communicate, you have to stay connected, and you have to care enough to do what it takes to make your relationship shine. But the time you spend together feels magical, and if you're willing to endure obstacles early on to be with the person you love, chances are you'll be able to weather rough patches down the road, too.

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In today's world, long distance isn't the roadblock it used to be—there are so many ways to stay connected. If you find yourself in a long-distance relationship, here are some survival tips.

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Buy a webcam

Web cameras are not as high tech or pricey as they may seem, and many laptops come with built-in webcams. Sign up for a free service like Skype and see your guy whenever you want! Face-to-face contact will help make you feel more connected. (Just resist the urge to spend the first 10 minutes every night talking about how funny it is to communicate this way—it kind of ruins the romance.)

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Sign up for a credit card with air miles

Air mileage will be your best currency when you fall for someone far away. Assuming your interest is mutual, try to keep the momentum by visiting each other one or two weekends a month—or as much as your schedule and your bank account can handle.

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Don't hibernate when you're together

Many people in long-distance relationships have a tendency to spend many hours cooped up together when they reunite. Remember: It's just as important to see your partner in his world—with his friends, his family, his interests—so you can make an informed decision about your compatibility. If you have a 3-day weekend planned, use the first night to reunite without an audience. After that, pry your hands off one another and get outside!

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Live in the moment—even though you're trying to figure out the future

When you're dating long- distance, you have to plan so much for every date that it may be hard to enjoy the present. It's important to remember there are no guarantees in any relationship. The best you can do is to get to know each other, build together, and have a good time in the process.

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Don't be afraid of discussions about the future

As much as you strive to live in the moment, find opportunities to talk about the future. "What if" questions are a natural part of any adult relationship, so don't shy away from them in a long-distance relationship. At a certain point, you'll need to discuss how viable it is for one of you to relocate. If you absolutely cannot come to terms with ever being in the same city, it's better to cut off the relationship before you get even closer.

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