The moment your daughter announces that she's getting married, you start playing catch-up. What's news to you is the culmination of a decade of daydreams for her. By the time you get over the shock, she is hip deep in bridal magazines. By the time you've called all the relatives, she is mentally debating the advantages of a sunset wedding on a Bali beach or asking the president if the White House is available on a Saturday in June.
It is tempting to sit back and enjoy the moment.
You and your daughter have been through so much together. Book reports and braces. Good grades and bad hair days. Shouting matches you'll always remember and boyfriends you'd rather forget. There were times when you wondered whether the bond between you had stretched to the breaking point. But now you are both adults, able to relate woman-to-woman.
But as the wedding day approaches, make sure you're not sabotaging her big day with these statements: